plain but pretty ([info]lostpositive) wrote,
@ 2005-11-30 15:45:00
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Todays simplistic question
Today's question Do you think private people tend towards loneliness more than open people?

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[info]irkthepurist
2005-11-30 08:12 am UTC (link)
yes. probably!

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[info]lostpositive
2005-11-30 08:24 am UTC (link)
Do you think that's because they don't seem as lonely so people don't try to make them feel better?

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[info]ms_slonim
2005-11-30 08:51 am UTC (link)
I think it depends on what you mean by private. Sometimes 'private' seeming people can merely be self contained not needing that much from society in a general sense. One of my best friends is a real hermit but he needs his handful of close pals. He famously said to me 'friends are like fingers on a lepers hand, he only needs one or two good ones'!
Okay, extreme - but funny- point to make but it's true in his case. Is he lonely? I don't think so. In his private time he has plenty to occupy him and dealing with work collegues every day, gives him more than enough social interaction of a shallow nature.
But then I also have friends who are life-and-soul-of-the-party types yet at the core, they're kind of guarded. For exapmple, conversationalists who ask you a bazillion questions about your life and yet reveal very little about themselves in return. Yet on the surface you'd class that person as more open as they were gregarious.

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[info]lostpositive
2005-12-01 04:51 am UTC (link)
Private in the sense of not talking very much about all their inner workings/feelings. I guess my point is that a private person might hide it better than an open person. Although everyone deals with that kind of thing differently I guess.

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